Shifting standards for myself; not perfect, honest.
I’m shifting my expectations of myself. For years it was perfection. Be perfect, please everyone, perform great, get it all done. Of course I wasn’t perfect so this strategy certainly had it’s flaws… cue dissatisfaction, confusion and mental and physical burnout.
Now I’m trying something new and it feels a little radical. I’m getting really honest.
Starting with just myself and my inner dialogue.
We tell ourselves so many lies to keep the peace and smooth the social waters that we lose sight of what is true and what isn’t. “This job is fiinnneee”. “I’m happy to compromise on that thing, it’s fiiinnnnneeee” “ Oh sure I’m comfortable with that, no worrrriiiieeeessss”.
So as a recovering perfectionist, who has people pleasing deep in her DNA, I’m trying something new.
Swapping Perfect for Honest. It’s going to be a learning curve, and I’m not going to be perfect at it, and that’s okay.
P.S This isn’t about harsh truth telling, honesty without compassion or kindness isn’t my bag.